The only memory I had of Rose Agnes Banner, appearancewise, was one lifted from a two and
a half inch, square, black and white snapshot she had sent to me during the war, half a century ago.
I believe it was taken when, or soon after, she had graduated. Or perhaps it was a twenty-first birthday, or something. Anyway, in the picture, she was done up to the nines in a smart, two-piece suit, the whole ensemble being topped off by a big, white, Easter bonnet sort of hat that shouted from the rooftops that its wearer was celebrating something.
I don’t think I had looked at that snapshot for maybe thirty or forty years. I didn’t even know whether I still had it in my possession, back home.
Nevertheless, a clear impression of the photograph must have been retained indelibly in the depths of my subconscious – for the prospect of the imminent meeting with my American cousin had shoved the fifty-year-old image suddenly and almost rudely, to the forefront of my mind.
It was hovering there, bright and clear, as cousin Rose entered the building.
The image of the elegant young girl that had been shimmering in my imagination was, of course, not the one I was now looking at. For this lady – my relative, at long last – was in her late sixties or early seventies. Well, she would have to be wouldn’t she? Rose had already graduated when I was writing to her, and at the time I was just 12 years old. I was now 64.
Yet, I recognised her immediately…
Like me, Rose was carrying more than half a century of wear and tear, and she appeared to have filled out a little from what I recalled of the photograph. Nevertheless, the bulky, dark
anorak and the warm trousers she was wearing against the cold Laramie breezes outside, easily disguised the portliness that encroaching age had imposed upon her.
All the same, I could see she didn’t know me from Adam…
And I was now agonisingly aware of the presence of the twenty-four-hour growth of grey stubble on the face I was about to present to her.
Yesterday – would you believe it – for the first time since I had started shaving at the age of seventeen, I decided not to. Shaving was a damn nuisance and a chore – as any man will vouchsafe. For me, the daily habit was a spin-off from National Service days with the military, when failure to shave – unless under direct orders not to from the MO – would be enough to put you on a charge for crass slovenliness. Besides which, there was a certain amount of encouragement from Mark, who had said: ” I don’t know why you bother to shave every day. With your colouring nobody can see it, anyway…”
So, noting that my son hadn’t bothered to shave either, I had stashed away my toiletries. And – I thought – it being extremely unlikely that Rose and I would be bumping in to each other, I had shrugged off any vain ideas about what the general American public were going to think about this pair of unshaven Limeys who had dared to contaminate their pristine environment.
Yet – wasn’t it ever thus? – in spite of the unlikeliness of the event ever happening, nevertheless, it happened. My cousin Rose was, at this very moment, coming towards me.
It was hardly surprising then, at this point, that my twenty-four-hour growth of alfalfa was beginning to feel as though I had sprouted – overnight – the very twin of the goatee that adorns the familiar, patriotic countenance of Uncle Sam himself…
Why is it that things always seem to work out just the opposite to what you expect?
As Rose came nearer she was wearing a slightly quizzical expression. I knew, without any doubt whatsoever, that she was asking herself: “Wonder what dung-heap this couple of bums – who are claiming to be my relatives – crawled out of?”
Well, it must be admitted that our trip wasn’t the usual tourist jaunt. We hadn’t come to the US in order to dress up and take in the Las Vegas bright lights. Or to parade ourselves along Hollywood Boulevard on the off-chance that some desperate talent scout was sweeping the horizons on the lookout for a couple of Limey prospects for belated stardom…
In fact, except for one or two occasions when we might fancy a posh nosh-up at some salubrious restaurant nearby, we ate either in a simple diner, or in our bedroom at whatever motel we may be currently staying. Or we’d stop at some breathtaking overlook and eat surrounded by wilderness – like the pioneers we had come here to emulate.
So we weren’t exactly adorned in our Sunday best for what was going to be, obviously, a memorable occasion.
All this, together with the stubble on my face which – thanks to my tortured imagination – had, by now, turned into an Amish beard, began to make me believe that we had, indeed, crawled out of the dung-heap of cousin Rose’s razor-sharp speculations.
I began to wonder whether it might not be a good idea to duck out of sight and leave Kathy Clymer to explain to Rose it had all been one great big case of mistaken identity…
Meanwhile, the doors of the magnificent boardroom, which Kathy had invited us to use for the meeting, had been left wide open, awaiting our cousin’s arrival.
Rose walked through them, into the boardroom, and came to a stop right in front of me. Her eyes, twinkling behind the large, sepia-tinted lenses of her horn-rimmed spectacles, were questioning but friendly. She held out her hand in greeting. “Hello”, she said. “You Jim?”
As I introduced myself and Mark to Rose, Kathy Clymer had been bustling around somewhere in the background, and now she appeared with a tray of coffee and biscuits and laid them on the boardroom table. Then she went out and left the three of us – distant cousins in more ways than one – to get acquainted.
It was all very slow at first, and we talked haltingly and shyly, as strangers talk when they are seeking for something in common on which to hang a decent conversation. But then the ice began to crack, and it wasn’t long before we were firing the names of mutual relations at each other, and laughing and joking as though we had known each other, if not for years, then at least for a couple of months.
Mark, meanwhile, had seated himself – rather politely, I thought – a little to one side, as if giving Rose and I a little elbowroom in our efforts to get acquainted with the idea that we were, in fact, blood relations.
He must have been quite entertained by it all.
Here we were, in his eyes, a couple of old fogies, relatives but strangers, who had never met up in their lives, trying desperately to make up the difference in space and time by throwing family names and experiences at each other for all we were worth. In a matter of minutes, I learned I had relatives in England I never knew existed, and Rose was busy pinning new leaves to whatever branches of the family tree I happened to be acquainted with.
But, quite apart from the obvious novelty of the situation in which I had now found myself, there was something else, for me at least, about meeting up with Rose Banner.
Here – at this very moment, and quite impossibly – had come about the manifestation of a concept, bandied around way back in the Forties, mulled over and played with, and finally, flung aside as being nothing else but an immature daydream. Here – within the luxurious, polished-wood and carpeted surroundings of a Chamber of Commerce situated somewhere within an historically-famed sector of the vast and beautiful American West – a childhood bout of wishful thinking had somehow bounced into reality.
Through the magic of time and circumstance, the descriptive stamps of “impossible”; “immature”; “daydreaming” had been sloughed away from a young boy’s youthful shoulder-shrugging contemplations, and, by way of a sort of “quantum leap”, the youth – now grizzled and in the winter of his existence – had tumbled, startled and incredulous, into the future…
Isn’t it amazing? After many long years of a humdrum, workaday, oh-so-ordinary-sort-of-non-event existence, “normal” man’s only and established ambition is to have provided adequately for his family, and so he settles into doddering old age, sitting in the pub swapping reminiscences with his peers. Then, suddenly- and quite unexpectedly – something like this sweeps across his entity?
I have to hand it to my son. It was Mark’s generosity that had brought about this belated jump into an American daydream, and the resultant “Hi, there’s” between a couple of relatives whose awareness of each other’s existence had lapsed into indifference many years ago.
Fact is, Rose had not even been on Mark’s itinerary. His original plan was to head south for the warm deserts as soon as we had hit Denver and stocked up with provisions. The loop through the snowy Rockies was an addition at the last moment, at my instigation.
Which is why the meeting with my cousin had to end there, in the boardroom of the Chamber of Commerce in Laramie, Wyoming. It was a shame. But finding Rose was not the main object of our trip to the US…
Mark wanted to show me parts of America he had already seen for himself; parts that he knew I would fall desperately in love with; parts I had carried around in my imagination all my life; the sorts of places I would then carry around in my imagination for the rest of my days…
We must revert to his original plan and head south as soon as possible. Which meant tomorrow…
So we took our pictures, and we said our goodbyes. And we waved when Rose’s car passed us as she drove home.
One thing I knew. It had been a little sad to be saying goodbye so soon after saying hello. But Rose Rasmussen – this being her married name, although she was now a widow – would remain the high point of our visit to America, and would forever be my favourite talking point whenever I met up with other members of the family in the coming years…











